A Nigerian man known as Ifeanyi Eze has shared the adjustments he had to make while being married to a white woman.
In a Facebook post, he opened up about the culture shock he faced when he visited the family of his wife-to-be and saw her uncle cooking for the family while his wife and daughters, and daughter-in-law were around.
He said he told his wife-to-be that “Such can NEVER happen in Enugu”.
He told Nigerian men that marrying a white woman means being ready to “tolerate” what you will not accept from the women from your place.
He added that marrying a white woman means missing out on the “entitled free labour” that Nigerian men enjoy from their women and they will need to adjust.
He went on to list all the jobs a Nigerian man should be ready to take on when he marries a white woman.
He wrote: “Don’t marry oyibo woman. Otherwise, you will have to unlearn a lot. Let me tell you what happened…
“The first day I visited Omalicha’s uncle house… they were having a family party. Guess who was cooking? The uncle.
“The uncle has a wife, a daughter, a daughter inlaw, and even my wife… but he was the one cooking for everyone. They didn’t see anything wrong with that.
“When he was done.. he called everyone to the dinning. We ate and discussed.
“I told my wife that such can NEVER happen in Enugu. Men don’t run around kitchen during events when women are there. We have different cultures.
“Marrying oyibo will bring a crash of culture if both parties are NOT open minded.
“I’ve told my wife that she can’t address Umuada or her Nwunyedi Age Grade group as ‘you guys.’ Neither will she greet them ndi Mothers Union with ‘hi everyone.’ To us, it’s disrespectful. What happened to ‘ndi nne, maa mma… isokwa!’
“Bottomline is… when you marry outside of your culture and race, be ready to take things you couldn’t tolerate from your fellow onye obodo. Just like your spouse will also adjust.
“Also… if you marry oyibo, you will likely miss your entitled free labor that our women do.
“If you like no listen to me…
“See my list of jobs as a husband to oyibo wife: singer, cheerleader, massage therapist, part-time chef, dog walker, cleaner, storyteller, laundry man, trash disposer, shopping assistant, handyman, driver, financial planner…
“NB: If you think I am complaining, read Ephesians 1:17.” see details
