The wife of Dr. Paul Enenche, founder of Dunamis International Gospel Centre, has urged married men to set firm boundaries with female secretaries and personal assistants in order to protect their marriages. She made the remarks in a video that has gone viral on social media. Her husband, who was handed the microphone afterwards, said he has never employed a female secretary or personal assistant in his 30 years in ministry.
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Enenche’s wife told men to watch their communication habits and make sure no other woman receives more of their attention than their wife. She said a man should be alarmed if another woman’s text messages reach his phone more often than his wife’s. She also urged men not to let anyone take their wife’s place.
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She conceded that women can be efficient secretaries. Her point, as reported, was that married men need wisdom to avoid situations that create unnecessary closeness.
To illustrate, she pointed to the routine of a secretary preparing a boss’s tea. She suggested that a task that looks harmless can lead to excessive personal interaction and cautioned against secretaries spending extra time attending to a male employer’s personal needs. Her summary advice to men with female secretaries was to keep boundaries and not let them prepare their tea.
Paul Enenche said many people assume women are well suited to secretarial work because of their attention to detail. He called his decision not to hire a female secretary or PA a personal one. He also remarked that some secretaries repeat mistakes in official correspondence even after being corrected. He stressed, however, that his wife’s message was about self-protection: men should avoid whatever can be avoided.
Advice on marriage and workplace boundaries from prominent pastors regularly sparks debate on Nigerian social media. This one touches on gender roles, workplace professionalism and the limits of religious counsel in the office. Expect the clip to draw both support from people who value strict marital boundaries and pushback from people who see the advice as unfair to women.
Source: GistReel, X (@yabaleftonline)
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