Celebrity interior designer Ehizogie Ogbebor has shared a heartfelt message about the realities of abusive marriages, urging women to stop sacrificing their happiness and identity for relationships that destroy them.
In an emotional video posted after attending church, Ehizogie opened up about her past, revealing that she married at 18 and fled the marriage at 20 with two young children after enduring abuse that nearly cost her son’s life. She said the painful experience shaped her views on love, self-worth, and mental well-being.
Reflecting on the struggles many women face, the designer lamented how intelligent and loving women often remain trapped in toxic marriages for 15 to 20 years, drained emotionally, mentally, and financially—all in the name of endurance, children, or societal expectations. According to her, such women slowly lose their confidence, identity, and joy while trying to “manage” men who neither value them nor understand true partnership.
Ehizogie also stressed the damaging effects such environments have on children, noting that constant tension and emotional neglect at home often do more harm than good. She cautioned that many women who give up everything for their families eventually find themselves abandoned when their husbands “find themselves” or move on.
Clarifying that she wasn’t advocating divorce over minor issues, Ehizogie emphasized the importance of recognizing when a relationship has reached its breaking point. She said that when peace, confidence, and mental stability are gone—and there’s no effort to change—walking away may be the healthier choice.
She concluded by urging women to seek support, rediscover their strength, and stop living in fear of societal judgment, reminding them that it’s far better to be labeled than to spend a lifetime broken and unhappy.
Watch the video below.
